Postpartum Plan

Everyone always talks about the birth plan and where you’re going to give birth. While this is very important it is not the end game. At the end of your birth you have a baby. This may sound simplistic and obvious but many couples don’t think about what they’re going to do with the baby afterwards. How they’re going to be supported, who they’re going to call in the middle of the night when they can’t figure out why the baby’s crying, etc.

The following is a general postpartum plan that I created with a link here: Postpartum Plan

Postpartum Plan

Bellow is a fill in the blank version of a well rounded postpartum plan. Please feel free to adapt it to your own needs and Congrats on your new baby!

Your support system is very important  and you should figure out who they’re going to be before your little one comes into the world, that way you’re not scrabbling to find someone to help you while your baby is screaming in the background. This list should also include care providers, lactation consultants, the local support groups, etc.

Postpartum Plan Village Chart

Now that you have your list of people that are willing to help out, let’s talk about food. Nutrition is one of the most important aspects of your postpartum life with a new baby, especially if you’re breastfeeding. You need well rounded, nutritious meals that are easy for your tired self to deal with. Below is a table that has the first five weeks ready and waiting for you to write down the names of the people who are going to provide your meals for you that day. Now you can break this up by weeks (i.e. Mom is taking all of week one) or every other day, whatever pattern works for you and your supporters. Also: Don’t forget snacks!

Postpartum Plan Meal Coordination

People don’t have to cook something to provide you meals, they can order from your favorite restaurants. Below list at least five local restaurants that deliver with their phone numbers:

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*As an added bonus you can list what your favorite meals are so your support person doesn’t even have to ask you what you want before they bring it over.
**Another note: It should be understood that the food is just being brought over and then the person leaves, that way you don’t have to worry about entertaining                                ***Don’t forget to have a couple of grocery lists available for people who want to shop, as well as round-trip printed directions from your house to grocery stores available for those who ask!

                                                                                                                                                                Isolation after a birth is one of the main causes of postpartum depression and the easiest way to prevent it is to socialize, even if the new mama feels overwhelmed at the prospect. The best way to make socialization simple and stress free is to get the calendar out and schedule visits before baby.  Below list people who will specifically support the new mother (including times of day available) for rests, showers, walking partners, visits, phone/Skype chats, positive parenting support/advice, and anything else she needs. Great to organize at the shower or religious birth ritual.                                                                                                                                                                   PPP Socialization Calendar                 *The purpose of skipping days is because as the baby gets older the new mama should become more comfortable leaving the house by herself allowing her to make more impromptu plans                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The same idea applies to the spouse. Below list the people who will specifically support the partner/spouse/husband (including times of day available) for rests, showers, walking partners, visits, phone/Skype chats, positive parenting support/advice, and anything else he/she needs. Great to organize at the shower or religious birth ritual.        

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Next if you have older children you may want to set up daycare or playdates for them before they new baby is born. That way you don’t have to stress about how you’re going to handle a new baby, healing, and a toddler (This is especially important if you have a cesarean). Below list the people who will specifically support other child/ren.

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Now let’s talk about self care! Self care is when you do something that makes you feel happy, feel human again, or just brightens your spirit. Below list things that make you feel thins way and then allow for at least one moment of self care per day. It’s the best way to remember yourself and keep your sanity.

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The same idea goes for your partner. Have them list their self care plan below:

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Lastly let’s remember that you are a couple and need time together by yourselves. This doesn’t have to be a long time, nor does it have to be directly after your baby is born. A prime example could be going out for a slice of pizza for 20 minutes will grandma snuggles her grandchild. Whatever it is you need to plan and think of it now so that you don’t get in the habit of ignoring your partnership while concentrating on your baby. Below list at least one idea to spend time together:

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As a postpartum doula I highly recommend having a postpartum plan, even if it’s just includes your mother and a postpartum doula. As long as you realize {Bring to Focus} what is going to happen after the birth of your baby and who’s going to be there for you, everything should work out.

As always if you have any questions, concerns, additions, or just want to chat feel free to contact me 🙂

-MH

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