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June: World Infertility Month

I just found out that June is World Infertility Month. I think that it’s great to label it as a “World” issue because the range of infertility problems can affect anyone anywhere. WHO (World Health Organization) has even funded research on the topic to help determine what the world infertility rates are. From a 2012 study they have concluded that an estimated more than 186 million ever-married women of reproductive age in developing countries were maintaining a “child wish”, translating into one in every four couples.

This is crazy but reassuring. This means that you are not alone in your struggles. Heather Huhman of the Huffington Post has also written on the topic, it is very personal for her as well. She says:


I have been unsuccessfully trying to have a baby for nearly four years. During that time, I’ve had four miscarriages, six IVF transfers, two IVF egg retrievals, and lost twins during delivery. Needless to say, I could be president of The Infertile Club.

But I know that your ability to have a baby (or many babies) is not what keeps me from having one of my own. I also know you are confused about how to approach me — afraid your abundant fertility will send me into a deep pit of despair.

“What we’ve got here is failure to communicate.” – Cool Hand Luke, 1967

This isn’t a me problem or a you problem; it’s an us problem.

This quote came from 11 ways to support your infertile friends which I found very interesting and potentially helpful. She also has a podcast that talks about infertility struggles to empower listeners to take back control, and provide them hope for the future. If you’d like to listen Click Here – if you read my first post then you’ll know that I’m about to subscribe myself.

The CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) has collected data on infertility rates in the United States. The data was collected between 2011-2013 with the Key Statistics from the National Survey of Family Growth  survey.  The results are below:

  • Number of women aged 15-44 with impaired fecundity (impaired ability to get pregnant or carry a baby to term): 7.5 million (12.3%)
  • Number of married women aged 15-44 that are infertile (unable to get pregnant after at least 12 consecutive months of unprotected sex with husband): 1.0 million (6.1%)
  • Number of women aged 15-44 who have ever used infertility services: 6.9 million (11.3%)

These numbers are quite high and yet the subject is taboo. Just like with everything else: Let’s Open Up the Subject! I mean people are suffering in {mostly} silence or are being judged by others because no one understands the struggles. While getting conversations going won’t solve the physical problems at least it would help with the mental/emotional ones. No one should have to stand alone, especially when infertility is so prominent worldwide.

Step One: Background Information


Men and Women can be infertile, yet women (traditionally) are blamed. There have been many breakthroughs in the research and practices of infertility treatments. Also, know that it takes time. Every person is different, concluding that it will take time to figure out what treatment will work for you. You may get lucky and find the issue immediately but that is improbable.

Step Two: Treatments

I’m just going to refer to the following as a basic introduction because this post could go on forever if I went into too much detail:


Step Three: Support

While your partner will be a major contender you both will need more than each other. I know that this doesn’t sound quite right but if you’re only venting your feelings to eachother then eventually you may blame one another for the problems versus leaning one eachother in this time of need.

Resolve is the national support system where you can also type in your zip code to find support groups as well as providers that specialize in infertility treatments.

Facebook also has many national, international, and local groups for online support

Family and Friends: You should attempt to clue in a few of them so that they can support you but also so that they understand the you have special circumstances that may make you “moody” (that’s that the best word but it’ll do).

In conclusion, if you want an ear or shoulder please feel free to contact me, sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone who’s not connected and you need to feel/ express your emotions to remain mentally/ emotionally/ physically/ spiritually healthy.

Until next time,


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